Courageous Brothers and Sisters

 Courageous

(by Pam Spencer, May 16, 2026)

 

Sit down, grab a cup of coffee or tea.  This is going to be a long one…..

The past two weeks of my life and my son's have been some of the most tumultuous days of our lives.  We have lost several of Matt's closest young friends: Andre in 2013, Seth in 2014 and Mitchell in 2016, but this week, we lost the dad of one of Matt's friends, Ryan.  

Ryan married the love of his life, Grace on April 25th.   Beautiful, stunning wedding!!  Two hearts melded into one. Everything went absolutely beautifully!!!  Exquisite!!!

Then, tragedy struck.  Unexpected. Impossible. Unbelievable.  One week after the wedding, Ryan's dad went in for "routine" neck surgery.  Mistakes were made. Seizures started and would not stop.  Corrections were made and hope lifted her head.  But another mistake was made and more seizures came about.  Drug induced coma......organ failure.....and ultimately led to Gregg being "Promoted to Heaven."  

As deep of a faith that I have had all of my life, I could not quit crying!  I could not stop asking:

"Why, Lord, Why?"  Usually, I can calm my emotions down and get to a place of peace, but not this time.  It was Not supposed to be this way!  “NO,” I cried out, over and over and over again!!

One of my devotions by Sarah Young, the author of Jesus Calling, Jesus Always and Jesus Listens has this to say:

“Don’t get trapped in a posture of demanding to know “Why?”  That is the wrong question to ask God.  The right questions are:  “How do You want me to view this situation?” and “What do YOU want me to do right now?”  You cannot change the past, so start with the present moment and seek to find My way forward.”

Pretty great questions to stop and ask, aren’t they?  It helps me every time I stop and Ask God those two questions.

Then, a few days later, a different devotion talked about when people ask after a tragedy as struck like a Tornado, a Hurricane or an unexpected death:

“Where is God in all this?”  The answer a mom gave to her son was:  “Look for the helpers.”  In each tragedy that occurs, there are always people helping, lending a hand, building a new house for someone, churches who come to aid in a whole town devastated by a tornado, Samaritan’s Purse during COVID.  There are a MILLION examples of “helpers” who show up at just the right time!

Now, transition back to Ryan, Matt and all the groomsmen and bridesmaids, and lifelong friends of Ryan who showed up at the ICU waiting room.  Helpers!  One and all.  The extraordinary part of this group of friends who celebrate EVERYTHING together is that they make up a cohesive ball that NEVER comes apart!  From the time some of them were 6-7 years old in elementary school, to 5^th grade when two elementary schools merged and went on to middle school, then high school, this group of friends stayed together!!!  Thick or thin.  They were and ARE there for each other.  Helpers. 

Where is God in all of this?  In each one of these friends hearts.  This cohesive ball is extraordinary.  One of a kind.  Stronger bond than any I have seen anywhere in my life.  They NEVER come apart.

Now consider this:

Courage means: The quality of mind that enables one to face danger with self-possession or confidence.  Courage also means bravery.  Having courage means you are being courageous even though you may be fearful.

One of my favorite quotes on Courage is this: 

"Courage does not always roar, 

Sometimes, it's the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 

I will try again tomorrow."

(by Mary Anne Radmacher)

 

And, listen to this quote:

“What a GIFT God gives us when He blesses us with COURAGEOUS brothers and sisters committed to standing in unity when trials come.”

 

Tomorrow is here.  Today.  And, the day after, and the day after, and the day after that.

Gregg may be in Heaven with the Lord, but his “Helpers” are here with Ryan and  Grace.  With Gregg’s wife Evelyn.  With all of their kids, siblings and all the extended family and friends who loved Gregg dearly.

They show up when Evelyn or Ryan (or any of  the family) don’t even realize they need it.  And, this cohesive ball of courageous and incredible young men and women will be by their side.  Always.  How about that for COURAGEOUS????

A Field of Dreams coming true

Do you remember the movie with Kevin Costner called:  "Field of Dreams?"  

"If you build it, they will come" was one of the key lines of the movie.  I believe I know someone in 2026 that will be having a field of dreams come true very soon!!!  Listen to this story...........

Have you ever had a person in your life that is so determined, so sure of something she feels called to do that you are convinced as well that she is going down the right path???  I do!

This young lady, who will remain anonymous for now, is only 26 years old, but oh, what a life she has already lived in her short 26 years!  And, it has NOT been an easy life.  Challenges have plagued her for her entire life.  But, she has persevered.......

She's determined, focused, set and so pulled in a direction of becoming a missionary that she can hardly explain it to others.  It started when she was a little girl and has not stopped!  Then, 2 years ago, she went on a mission trip with our church to Amman, Jordan to "Books and More" Library in Jordan.  She was entranced by the culture, the land and the fact that Jesus walked on that same ground!  She was baptized in the Jordan river and her life has never been the same since 2023.  

The pull to go to Jordan again has been a constant in her dreams!  Here is a little snipett of her heart:

"I want to go to Jordan because something in me is pulled there in a way I can't explain away. I want to help remind His people who He is -- not by preaching or correcting, but by showing up with humility, love, and presence.

I don't want to speak about God from a distance. I want to live near the roots of my faith and let my life reflect what I believe.  I want to walk and live like Christ with my whole body and my whole life, not just my words.  I want my faith to be embodied -- to be seen in how I move through the world, how I treat people, how I serve, how I listen, how I remain faithful when it costs something.

I want to be in the land where Jesus was.  Not because geography saves, but because He chose that place to step into humanity.

I want to slow down enough to notice what He noticed.  I want to live simply, relationally, and intentionally, the way He did.

I want my hands to serve where my heart aches to be. I want my feet to go where my prayers already live.  I don't want comfort to be the thing that decides my life. I want obedience, presence and alignment -- even it they are quiet, unseen, and misunderstood.

I want my life to look like love lived out, not just love talked about."

Now, I call that determination and dedication!  How about you?  Would you send a person like this to a foreign land and trust that the Lord will do exactly what He wants to do with her life?  I would.

She is an amazing young lady!  I have been blessed to do Bible study with her every Tuesday since March 2025.  She amazes me by her questions and in-depth study for our Bible Study classes.  She listens with intent.  She considers what is being taught and allows God to play out what she had learned in her daily life.  She may be young and petite, but she is a powerhouse for God!!!  Jesus is her true source and it shows!!!  

She got the compliment of her life when one of her co-workers said she was a female "Charlie Kirk" in living color!!!  WOW!!  They were spot on!!!  She believes so deeply in Jesus and His love and His mission that His Word excudes from her!  

She carries her Bible with her to work - even as a manager - and has it open on her desk!  People notice.  They listen. They ask her questions about her faith.  And, she gives them answers!!!

Please pray with me that the possibility of her going back to Jordan may become a reality for her!

I believe there are negotiations in place and are working for her good!! 

Romans 8:28 says:  
"And we know that all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose."

I believe this young lady is called.  I believe she is dedicated to Christ.  I believe she grows in her faith every day.  I believe she will make an amazing missionary.  And, I believe she may become an amazing Bible Study Leader/Teacher/Mentor one day in Amman, Jordan!!!

Her heart is SO full of love!  

Lord, please grant her heart's desire to serve You in Jordan!!!

A Human Chrysalis: From Heartbreak to Beauty

Have you ever studied a Chrysalis closely?  It is the pupa or beginning of a butterfly.  Encased in a cocoon, the chrysalis begins to form from pupa (larval form) to something so magnificent, so beautiful  and so stunning that a person can hardly believe it was once a pupa!!!

I have a friend that is so beautiful, so magnificent and so stunning, yet she does not think she is anything special.  You see, after 30 years of being told she was not worthy, she came to believe it.  She stood stoically as she endured years of betrayal, unkind words and behavior from her own husband and his family that people (including her own children) never knew what she was experiencing on a daily basis.  Thirty years..........I have known this beautiful friend for over 46 years now, yet not knowing what was going on behind the scenes of a "Happy Family."  She lived in one state, I lived in another.  Every time I called to talk to her whether it was just to catch up, on her birthday, their wedding anniversary, or the kids birthdays, she never knew that I called. Never....her husband never told Linda that Nancy or I had ever called.  Never.  Thirty years.

I was stunned in 2008 when I found out about her divorce and the abuse.  I never knew the depth of the hurt she was experiencing.  For the most part, I did not see the abuse, but I did hear her husband's description and language towards other people whenever I visited my home town and went to see them as friends.  Over the years, I did talk to him, but learned to not like him very much as most people he spoke about were "dirtballs" or "dumbasses" and other various negative names.  (Now, years later, I believe he was actually talking about himself.  Possibly, insecurity extraordinaire?)

The good news is, after 46 years, the three Piano Majors who were friends while we each studied music at Ohio State University got together for a vacation for July 4, 2025 in Western New York.  

We stayed at Nancy & Bruce's house on Interlaken Lake in Western New York - it was MAGNIFICENT!!!  We had so much fun, and Nancy and I watched a beautiful butterfly emerge from her cocoon.  Yes, our friend Linda was coming out of her shell.  Finally, after years of praying for her, the Lord is beginning to transform her.  From the inside out!

No more abuse, no more name calling, no more hiding the hurt and shame, no more stoically standing on the sidelines while being told horrific things about who she was and how she looked.  No matter what she wore, it was never good enough for her husband even though she is gorgeous- every day! 

This magnificent, beautiful and stunning friend began to laugh and be herself again!!!  It was amazing to see her heart "unthawing" after so many years in a frozen meat locker.  Yes, her heart was frozen for soooo long!

Plus, Linda is an amazing and accomplished musician!  While in college, she worked 3 jobs, had 3 children and got her doctorate in music!!!  Amazing!!! Incredible!!! How did she accomplish all that?  I have NO idea, but I believe it was by the Grace of God!

It was so much fun to watch Linda unfold as a person again.  She went on the intertube on the lake behind the boat just for fun!  She gave Nancy's granddaughter an impromptu piano lesson and made Charlie laugh and learn that "rhythm is her friend!"  She went on walks with us. We drank coffee together every morning. And, she shared her heart with Nancy and I as we listened to her story.

Also, listening to Linda play the piano and watching her beautiful hands on the piano keys, I cried once again because her hands are like "velvet" on the keys! Velvet!!!  I have described Linda's playing to my family and friends over the years as velvet on the keys over and over again.........it is truly amazing to watch and listen to her play!!  AMAZING!!!

If you have a friend who has been through such a stinging, excruciating experience, encourage them that there is a bridge to the other side of that cold, dark cliff they were on.  Encourage them to walk across that bridge to the other side.  There is healing, there is wholeness, there is love for the asking on the other side.  And , they do NOT need to feel guilty for leaving that cold, dark cliff.  They deserve Love, Joy, and Peace. They deserve to emerge from that cocoon and fly like a beautiful butterfly!!!

From heartbreak to beauty.  It truly is possible.  We watched the butterfly emerge!!!  WOW!!!

Friends and Sisters-in-Christ

Friends who accompany us along this journey call life are priceless!  Each one has a unique quality and personality. They make up a "tribe" to surround us and make each day filled with joy, laughter and fun, and make our life more vibrant and worth living.  They are an anchor for our soul at times as well. They lift us up when life gets us down and stand by our side when the going gets rough.  We share our joys and sorrows openly and freely. 

When those priceless friends are also, sisters-in-Christ, it is even more of a gift!  For we know our Anchor is in Christ alone. He shines a light on the darkness and gives us hope.  These "sisters" help us to see that light. 

Five years ago, we started on a journey with my friend Loraine as she faced liver and colon cancer.  She faced it head on and fought hard!  She faced each treatment with courage and dignity. Many ladies from our church took her to chemo treatments, doctor appointments, and her best friend Debbie from New York was on every phone call with the doctor and surgeon.  Her cousin, Mary Ann stepped in and took care of the finances and provided incredible moral support with Mary Ann's hubby and daughters. Then, an angel named Pam McCracken, sent from God above, offered her home to Loraine and took care of Loraine for the past 15 months. It was beautiful to watch Pam take care of Loraine, especially in these past few weeks and days of her life. The tenderness and love poured through to Loraine in every way imaginable. Just think of what an incredible gift that was to Loraine!

Loraine has and had a mighty tribe!  

After multiple surgeries, chemo and grueling treatments, her battle is over.  Today around 8 am, the Lord gathered His precious lamb, Loraine Hardy in His arms and took her home to be with Him forever!  No more pain, no more cancer, no more suffering.  Loraine is whole and free and Rejoicing! And, for those of us who are believers, we will see her again in Heaven!!! Hallelujah!!!

Isaiah 40: 11 says: "He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart."  The Shepherd, Jesus, gathered her in His arms as she took her last breath this morning.

And, He did carry her close to His heart!  Every day......what a privilege it was and is to have been by her side these past 5 years.  She is the epitome of "Loveliness."  Everything about her was lovely....pure....sweet.  I wrote a blog in March 2020 about her being "Lovely."  (I will be reading it at her Celebration of Life in a couple of months!)  She truly was....

I pray that each of you reading this has a "tribe" around you -- to carry you through, to be by your side, to help lift the burden on the days you want to give up, and to help you see how loved you are!!!

These sisters who are "closer than a brother" are precious.  Priceless. The love they share with us will stay in our hearts long after our earthly life is over.  That is why we look forward to Eternity in Heaven.

We will see you again, Loraine!!!  We love you and will miss you dearly..........thank you for blessing our lives!!!

I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day

Do you remember bells, Church Bells, Belfries or Carillon Bells ringing in the city when you were young?  I do!  It is one of my favorite childhood memories. The church up the street where I grew up had them ringing every Sunday and many mornings to awaken you to a new day!  And, I especially loved the bells ringing on Mackinac Island in the summers of 1971-1972 with my grandparents.  Ahhh.....they brought such joy to my heart!

If you do remember church bells ringing as a child, then some of you may remember the old Christmas Carol called "I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day."  It is a beautiful old carol with words or lyrics written by Henry W. Longfellow, the famous poet. 

Henry Longfellow wrote the carol in 1864 in the midst of the Civil War, one of the darkest hours in this country.  Along with that, he has just lost his beloved wife, Fanny due to her dress catching on fire from a candle.

The words are poignant. They prick our senses or they become keenly distressing to the mind or our feelings or can arouse a lot of sentiment in our hearts. See what you think:

Verse 1:  I heard the bells on Christmas day, their old familiar carols play, and wild and sweet the words repeat of Peace on earth, good will to men.

Verse 2:  I thought how, as the day had come, the belfries of all Christendom, had rolled along the unbroken song of Peace on earth, good will to men.

Verse 3:  And in despair I bowed my head; There is no peace on earth, I said, "For hate is strong, and mocks the song of Peace on earth, good will to men.

Verse 4:  Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:  "God is not dead, nor does he sleep; The wrong shall fail, the right prevail, With Peace on earth, good will to men."

Verse 5: Till ringing, singing on its way, The world revolved from night to day; A voice, a chime, a chant sublime, of Peace on earth, good will to men.

Here are a couple of questions to ponder this season:

1) What is wild and/or sweet in your life right now? Do you have a grandchild that runs wild and drives you crazy?  Or do you have a sweet child, grandchild, niece or nephew, or neighbor child who has stolen your heart?  Ring a Bell for that child!

2) What unbroken song sings in your heart?  Do you have a longing that won't quite go away?  Ring a bell in your heart!  Let joy flow from that song!

3) How is your mood lately?  Does despair crop us occasionally?  With all that has happened in our country and the world over the past couple of years, do you hear or feel the hate that seems to be so strong?  Have you noticed the mocking?  Ring a bell and keep the light of love strong in your heart! Share it with others!  Ring a Bell!

4)  How is your faith holding up?  There are a lot of reasons to be confused about faith these days. Listen for the church bells.  Find hope.  You might think God is dead, but guess what?  He is NOT dead nor does He sleep! He is WIDE awake!!!  All the wrong that seems to be so pervasive, will NOT prevail!  I believe that with all my heart! And, God's Word tells us so!  Take heart, Listen, and Ring a Bell!

5) Look up! Have you noticed?  The world keeps revolving!  It does not stop, even when our hearts are heavy. Listen for a voice, a chime, a chant.  Then, let PEACE rule in your heart!  

PEACE acronym: 

P = Praise: Find a reason to sing Praises 

E = Exalt God

A = Adore Him

C = Created:  KNOW that He created you, He is calling you, and He may have already claimed you as HIS!

E = Eternity - you are His for all of eternity!  REJOICE! 

Let the church bells ring in your heart! Let a little "lilt" show in your step! Let music surround you this season!  Feel the tingle of a song that gives you chills! Allow yourself to cry when you need to do so!  

Watch the movie:  "I Heard the Bells on Christmas day."  Stay up until midnight on Christmas eve and see if you hear church bells somewhere in the community!  Go to a Midnight Service! 

Pretend you are a Christmas ornament and lay underneath your Christmas tree and look up through the lights.  Let that light shine through you the next day!

 Most of all, I pray you will "hear" the church bells ringing in your heart!

 Then peeled the bells more loud and sweet:  "God is not dead, nor does He sleep!"

Let the Bells Ring!!!

An Orphan's Destiny

This past weekend, out church had an awesome Women's retreat called Restored!  It was an amazing day filled with laughter and tears!  We had wonderful music along with three speakers who were fabulous!  Each had their own idea of what "Restored" meant to them and each shared their story.  Each one was so unique and so honest.  As they gave their testimony as to what had happened in their lives, we each took away something to comfort our hearts.  And, some women felt that a part of them began to heal.  What an incredible gift it was!

I had the privilege of taking one of the speakers to the airport on Sunday and what a beautiful gift she gave me as we talked at lunch and then on the way to the airport.  Her name is Stephanie Fast and I hope you get her book from Amazon called "She is Mine." God made that statement to a mission nurse as she started to walk away from this little girl dumped in a garage heap.  The nurse named Iris' feet were like concrete.  She could not walk away and leave this little girl and audibily heard God tell her that "She is Mine!"  Wow!!  What a story she has to tell!

What Stephanie has gone through in her life was so startling and so sad on one hand and yet, she brought out the redemption that only the Blood of Jesus could bring!  I am not going to tell her story, but I am going to reflect on what she taught me through her story and her resilience!  I really hope you will buy the book or borrow it to read or learn more from her website.

I know some people have gone through so much pain and suffering as a child and I do not want to trample on anyone's heart in a negative way, so please forgive me if this blog triggers some of those feelings you thought you had worked through and perhaps healed from.  And, I hope this will not create a new fracture line in your heart.  My intention is that this writing may bring you hope and ultimately JOY!  There is so much to be grateful for even in our suffering......I hope you will agree.

If you were born in to a "regular" family, and had all the comforts of a loving home, I pray that you will stop and give thanks for those parents, grandparents and siblings that you may have grown up with over your lifetime.  If not, I pray this will encourage you to seek help with friends, prayer warriors and/or a counselor that can help you learn to work through all those rough spots in your upbringing.  There is so much to learn from our past even if it wasn't the brightest or the best.  

But, KNOW this:  You are Loved with an everlasting love that cannot be extinguished!!!  Yes, YOU!  Zephaniah 3:17 says:  "The Lord your God is with  you, He is mighty to save.  He will take great delight in you; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing."

Let that sink in for a few moments.....God delights in you.  He rejoices over you.  He sings over you!

Now, let me ask you a tough question:  Can you imagine being an orphan?  And, especially an Orphan of War from the 1950's???  I cannot.  Being told by your grandfather that you are NOT wanted and then having your mom forced (in a sense) to "get rid of you!" Gone from the village you were born in, gone from the young mother who loved you, gone from having anyone to care for you.  Gone.

This would be more than any little four year old heart can understand or fathom  (Or, any 67 year old, for that matter, hearing the story for the very first time.)

Imagine yourself at four years old!  Were you snuggled and held  as a child? Did you have a roof over your head?  Did you have food and water and even desserts or treats many days of your life?  Did you have a soft warm bed with sheets and blankets that kept you warm in the winter time?

Well, now try to imagine the opposite.  Imagine your mommy taking you to a train station in Korea at four years old, giving you a handkerchief with a pickle, an egg and a pad of cooked rice in it and telling you to be a good little girl and stay on the train all the way until it stops. At the end of the train ride there will be an "Uncle" who with pick you up and take care of you.  Then, imagine a little further, when the train stops and there is NO ONE there for you.  No one.  No uncle. Not anyone who will care for you.  No one.

Now imagine being half Korean and half British and not belonging to anyone.  Could you fend for yourself at four years old?  Could you find shelter, food, water, clothing, something to keep you warm at night?  Could you ask for help and stand being turned down time and time and time again because you were a half breed?  Imagine being spit on, beaten, tossed out, and treated as horribly as you can imagine.  Then, remember,  you are FOUR years old! 

What a frightening journey this little girl had!!!  Day and after day, she was treated horribly.  Hungry, tired, and scared with NO place to go and no one to help you.  Could you have survived?  Stephanie's story is compelling and riveting.  And, it is a miracle!!!  Stephanie learned through many grueling and very tough situations to survive. Now, she is around 70 years old (she never knew her birth date!) and she is living in the United States.  She survived to tell her story and what a  journey it has been!!!  She learned to THRIVE! And, she learned what many orphans never learn:  LOVE.  And, love from the ONE True God who brought her through so many twists and turns to tell this incredible story.  

I truly hope you will look up her website at:  www.stephaniefast.org or get her book to read!  It is truly gut wrenching and yet amazing!  Sad, but glorious!!!

What did I learn from Stephanie?  That hope is never lost.  A person can survive unmentionable things.  A person can heal from very, very tragic occurrences in your past.  And, a person can find God's love despite being treated very cruelly for the first 9 years of your life!

My prayer is that anyone reading this or passing it along to others, will find the Love of Jesus and put their trust in Him.  He is waiting for you.  He is mighty to save.

The MRI Club Rides Again!

Hold onto your hat - You're in for a treat!!!  (Oh!  You don't have a hat? Please go get one - you are going to need it!)

Have you ever heard of the Red Hat Club?  Well, it is a group of ladies whose are in the age range above 50 years old.  And, they wear Red hats with purple outfits and it is based on a poem called "When I Am an Old woman."  It is written by Jenny Joseph and Elizabeth Lucas.  (Is 50 really old?  Not in our club!!!)

Here are a couple of lines from the poem:

"I shall wear purple with a red hat which doesn't go and doesn't suit me....I will sit down on the pavement when I'm tired and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells and run my stick along the public railings...I shall go out in my slippers in the rain and pick flowers in other people's gardens and learn to spit."

Basically, the poem is advocating that as we grow older we can do what we want and not care what other people think about us!  (Ha! Ha!)  Irreverent you say?  Not a bit!!!  It is called FUN!!!

Well, a NEW club is in town now!!!  We call it the "MRI club."  It is a group of ladies from my church who happen to sit in the back row at church every Sunday and then go out to lunch together.  We have a ball together!!!  We laugh and giggle, discuss the sermon from the morning and generally enjoy each other's company.  The funny part about it is the age range:  93, 85, 84, 82, 68 and two 67 year olds!  

The ODD part about it (or, the funny part) is that the 3 younger ladies of the Back Row Church Ladies, all have had to have MRI's lately for various health issues and now are having surgery for those ailments!  

What in the world?  The older ladies of the group are "healthy as a horse" as the saying goes!!!  The younger ones are falling apart at the seams..........LOL

Then, to top those ages, we have 2 other friends who do not go to the same church, but are part of our MRI Club and adventures.  They are are ages 58 and 51 who are  also having surgery!!! Go figure!!!

But, the most beautiful part about our MRI club is the commradre.  We would do anything for each  other!!!  We pray for each other, give each other rides (after surgery), ocassionally play cards together, have brunches at our homes for each other, celebrate birthdays at restaurants ( and yes, we bring our own cake!), go to movies, and go on adventures to places like the Carousel Museum in Leavenworth and Weston, MO.  You name it - we have a BLAST!!!

What a blessing this group is!  We not only have fun, but we help carry one another's burdens, pray for our health and families, and spur one another on to a deeper faith!  God has truly blessed us with these special relationships and friendships. 

I encourage you to gather a couple of special ladies around you and do the same!  We only live once and why not live it with special people who make you smile???

Watch out:  The MRI clubs rides again and more adventures are sure to come!!!!

Peaceful Acceptance

 Have you ever been in pain unexpectedly?  Or in pain that you knew was coming, but did not expect it to be quite so challenging?  Well, I find myself in this spot this week after Arthroscopy knee surgery.  I expected to have pain  Post- Op, but did not think it would be greater than what I experienced 2 years ago when I had a total knee implant on the opposite knee!  How exciting, right?  

As many of my readers know, this blog piece is NOT for sympathy, but awareness.  Sometimes, we go through things in this life that we honestly do not understand and/or cannot comprehend.  At times like these, I like to reflect on what lesson I am supposed to be learning through all this?

So, in my despair and discomfort (to say the least!), I came up with an acronym to help me through this rough season:

PAIN = 

Peaceful

Acceptance

Infirmities

Nailed 

I am not sure how many of you have gone to Al-Anon (the spouse/family member support group to Alcoholics Anonymous), but it has taught me well.

One of my favorite definitions I learned in the program for 15 years after my divorce was the definition of  "Acceptance."  Acceptance is simple acknowledgement, without blame, without shame, without guilt and without regret.  Boom. Simple Acknowledgement.  Learning to accept or receive willingly.  Sometimes, acceptance is admitting that you are wrong.  Sometimes, it is simply acknowledging something is what it is, or someone is who he/she is.....right or wrong, good or bad, the thing or person simply is what it is and/or who they are. Period.

No blame, no shame, no guilt, no regret.  Acceptance.  Period.

Now add peaceful acceptance. Think about that:  Peaceful.....acceptance......peaceful......acknowledgement.  No need to challenge the situation or try to change that something or someone.  Simply accept.  Simply acknowledge.

It is a game changer!!!  All of a sudden you think about your situation differently.  Or, perhaps the acceptance comes slowly.....imperceptibly.  Almost as a whisper in the night.....whichever way it hits your heart - let it!!!

Infirmities happen to all of us ......I have a group of friends who have ALL gone through MRI's, CT Scans, and finally surgery to alleviate their pain and health conditions.  We call ourselves the "/MRI Club!"  It is hilarious!!!  So many close friends all facing uncertainty with outcomes of surgery, physical therapy, etc. yet all of us are hopeful that our bodies will come back to "normal" someday!!! LOL

With the love and support of so many wonderful family members and friends, each of us are "on the mend,"  So, it is with PEACEFUL acceptance that I write this blog in honor of so many people going through so many challenges in their lives.

And, finally, I am nailing my infirmities to the Cross of Christ!  Philippians 4:13 says:  "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!"  And, with this new peaceful attitude and awareness, my infirmities are lessening........day by day, minute by minute.  He holds us in His mighty hands.

Peace that passes all understanding wins.

Christ's Power

Come sit for a while.........this blog will be a long one....come linger awhile and contemplate what your heart feels and what emotions arise.

In recent days, there has been so much anger, fear, doubt, anxiety and total shock over recent events reported on the news that affects so many people that I know and love.  It is devastating to the family that this horrific act happened to AND to all who knows the heartbreak. Something so unbelievable and unfathomable that a person has to shake their head and say: "Why, God, why???"

The beautiful part is that the community of FAITH around this family is gathering..........hunkering down.......staying committed to helping in every aspect possible............praying............and trusting God with all our hearts!!

God will NOT be defeated! The Lion of Judah is roaring and we will get past this! And, we will stand tall together.  We will be a community that will have an incredibly positive "Ripple effect" so far and wide that people will say "How in the world do they stay positive?  Committed?  How are they becoming Stronger?  

How?  Our God is an AWESOME God!!!  He is mighty to SAVE!!!  He will NEVER leave us, nor forsake us!!!  He WILL be glorified somehow through this tragedy!!!

Psalm 46 resonates for us as a church family!!! 

"God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in times of trouble. Therefore we will NOT fear, though the earth give way, and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though the waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.  There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.  God is within her, she will NOT fall; Nations are in an uproar, kindgoms fall; He lifts His voice, the earth melts. The Lord Almighty IS with us, the God of Jacob IS our fortress.  Come and SEE the works of the Lord, the desolations He has brought on the earth.  He makes wars to cease to the ends of the earth; He breaks the bow and shatters the spear, He burns the shields with fire.  BE STILL AND KNO THAT I AM GOD. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth. The Lord Almighty IS with us, the God of Jacob IS our fortress."

Never before have I felt SO strong in my faith. SO certain there IS a God.  My faith is growing by the minute!  Our church WILL Grow. Our church family WILL unite. Our Kids Ministry WILL survive.  Our Preschool will THRIVE.  We will OVERCOME by God' Grace and Mercy.  His Grace IS enough.

Last night we gathered.  We prayed together.  We sang songs like "His Grace is Enough" and "Amazing Grace/My Chains are Gone." These songs will ring through our heads and our hearts forever. We will NOT give up.  We will NOT give in to the devil's schemes.

Prayer will be our mantra.  Prayer will lead us to VICTORY.

CHRIST'S Power will prevail and WILL overcome the evil that darkened our doorstep.

Changing gears for a minute, I had the privilege of creating an acronym with a young 10 year old friend, named Bella Lugo last week before this tragedy hit our church.  Bella and I poured over a Bible's Concordance for each letter in the word: POWER.  After writing down all the possibilities, we came up with this acronym:

Provides

Outstanding

Way

(for)

Everlasting

Righteousness

Isn't that amazing???  A ten year old, opening her Bible, picking out words to put together to create something that will resonate in my heart the rest of my days...........when I first learned of this tragedy, I thought, I don't even know HOW to pray, what to pray, could I pray?  Then, this acronym came to my mind.  God just provided HIS outstanding WAY.  He provides the Everlasting Righteousness through His son.

POWER.  Christ's Power.  

We have it because He sacrificed it ALL for each of us!!!  

HIS POWER!!!

His death. His burial. His resurrection.

Our Salvation. Our Santification. Our Sacred Privilege of being one of HIS followers.

His Provision.  His Way.  His Everlasting Righteousness.

His POWER.  

WOW!!!

Polishing Your Character

When was the last time you polished silver?  It has been a long time since I have had to polish any silver dish, tray or pitcher.  When a person polishes something that is silver, it is to make the silver color come back and take the tarnish off.  And, polishing something can make something smooth and glossy by rubbing or friction like a car or boat.

Also, another way to look at the concept of polishing is to render something finished or elegant. You might be redoing wood floors and polishing them and find out that polishing comes very easy and they look elegant when you are finished. My friends Terri and Dennis' wood floors are stunning!

Some people use the term "polish up" to improve or refine their behavior at work or within their family dynamics. So many people think they must compare themselves to others, so sometimes "polishing up" seems to make them feel better about themselves.  And, polishing up an attitude can truly bring about change in a very positive way.

And, what about your spiritual demeanor?  Does it need polishing up?  Or, have you been feeling like you are being polished by the Lord?  Lately, that is exactly what I have been feeling like........I was just reading in Sarah Young's Jesus Always devotional book and as I read the devotion on July 29 that is exactly what God is doing in my life!  There have been many things I have had to "wait" on or have patient endurance.  I have not always been "patient" or understood why so many challenges had to be one right after the other this past year and 1/2, but for whatever reason, He has shown me clearly in the past few days, exactly what He is doing!  And, it is amazing to have this awareness.

One example is not having a car for the past 8 months has been a real lesson in polishing my patience!!!  But, God has provided incredible friends to take me to and from church, work, the grocery, errands, etc.  I have truly been blessed beyond imagination these past 8 months by these precious friends!!!  A huge thank you to each person who helped me along the way!  And, a huge thank you to the Lord for pointing this concept out to me through this devotion!

If you feel like you are being "polished" look up and ask the Lord what He may be doing in your life!

He has a purpose in His plan.  Everything is under His control. That is the biggest lesson I have learned while being polished.  My character is being refined and improved in ways I would never have thought possible.  God is truly an amazing God!!!

Salt

 "You are the Salt of the earth."

(/Matthew 5:13)

Read the scripture and see how you react. Re-read it and consider this: If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, He is talking to YOU!  You are the salt of the earth!  

But, wait, what in the world does that mean?  Does it mean you are salty in your language when you are talking?  Do you sprinkle or season people by your encouragement?  Are you regarded as one of the finest people in a specific area who might be considered to be "The Salt of the Earth?  Or do your words come with a "grain of salt" meaning you exaggerate a lot?  Do you add a little "zest" to other people's lives as salt adds flavor to food? Or, does it mean you preserve things like salt does with food?  Hmmm....salt can mean many things to many different people!

Consider how salt works -  Can it facilitate healing? Can it hasten the closing of wound?  Can it add flavor to a meal? Can it be a symbol of wisdom where we learn from someone who may have more experience than we do in a certain area?  Or, could we be open to teaching something we know that someone might not have any experience in? Whichever way you have seen "salt" work in your life, consider how you might notice and apply one of these principles in your life:

1) Salt as a seasoning - Be an encourager!  Sprinkle a little "salt" around at the office or at home to lighten the load of someone who might need a little nudge.  Or, maybe you are one of the wonderful people who "flavor" other people's lives by splashing a bit of joy around and making people smile. Spread encouragement like glitter! It's a seasoning we all need!

2) Salt as a facilitator to healing - Notice when a person is hurting and ask how you might help?  Sometimes, we each need someone to listen.  Some wounds are really deep and heal very slowly - it takes time to process.  Sometimes the wound just won't close and we need someone to just sit with us as we go through that process.  Sometimes the diagnosis is so overwhelming that we need hope.

3) Salt as a preservative - Could we point out something that is of great value that no one else seems to notice? Or, point out to someone how valuable they are as a person?  Or could we point out what is worth holding onto that might not otherwise be seen?

4) Salt as wisdom - Be willing to share your experience, strength and hope with someone that is struggling or inexperienced. How might you offer to discuss the matter with someone who has not been in your shoes? Or, would you consider mentoring someone in a specific skill to add to their knowledge and skill? What about someone who wants to learn about the Word of God? Would you be willing to share a Bible study with them?

There are a million different ways to be "salt" in this world!  Try it - you just might be the "zest" that someone else might need to move forward on a new path or journey!  

Here is a challenge for you:  Ask God, how may I embark on being salt today for Your glory???  Salt my life Lord and spread Your flavor!!!

Mustard Seed Size Faith?

Have you ever seen a mustard seed?  It is extremely small……..barely visible to some….and small enough to lose within your own palm. So what does mustard have to do with faith?

First, mustard comes from a variety of plants with yellow flowers and a very pungent smell.  Second, think of a seed as a source or beginning which when fertilized becomes an embryo capable of developing into a plant.   A big plant! Combine those two things and you have an emerging flower or plant that develops or “grows” into something so much larger than can be imagined by looking at one tiny seed! Wow!  Think of that!  Tiny, little seedlings can become a glorious and huge plant!  That is what faith is like…..

In the beginning, faith may be quite undetectable, hardly noticeable.  Yet, when the Gospel is preached, on TV or the radio (the old fashioned way), a podcast, in a church, a Bible study online, on a billboard or whatever way captures a person’s heart, one may think, there may be something to that message of hope.  The thought percolates and the person thinks perhaps, I should learn more about what they teach and why.  And so, they start exploring the teachings of the faith.  How did it start?  Who started it? What do they believe?  How did they come to believe that?  Is there any truth to what they believe?  Yes, when a person finds faith, they find that the beliefs are good, right and true.  They choose to keep learning and their faith grows.  Then, grows some more until they truly know and understand what they believe and why. 

Or at least, that was my experience, way back when….1970’s.  Our family attend the Overbrook Presbyterian Church in Columbus, OH where I learned about the Presbyterian Church and what they believed in a Catechism class. Week after week, we explored what it meant to be a “Presbyterian.”  We learned how the church was founded and what is was founded upon.  Plus, the church was beautiful!  It had gorgeous stained glass windows and a sanctuary that evoked the presence of God to me.  I “felt” His presence when I entered the sanctuary each Sunday and on the nights of youth fellowship when we snuck into the darkened church and tried to “find God.”  It was there I found God for the first time.

I was confirmed in the church after one year of training and learning about the catechism of the church.  It was different that anything I learned in school and had a depth that I have not learned about before. I became “confirmed” at age 13.  Since I declared my faith at that point, I was able to take communion.  It was a glorious day to taste the bread and the grape juice.  I felt “all grown up!”

I received my first very own Bible and a church hymnal which I still have today and use the hymnal quite often while playing the piano.  The rhythm and music of the hymns are embedded deep in my heart from years of singing them.  The lyrics swirl in my head many days when I cannot find my way or on days when I feel inexpressible joy!  I believe that joy comes from my deep faith in the Lord, Jesus Christ.  It is the buoyancy of my life that I feel as JOY.  He anchors me and soothes my restless heart on days of peril and comforts me with His quiet love and peacefulness on other days.

One of the very first verses in scripture that I memorized comes from Hebrews 11:1 which says: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”  Truly, faith is hope in something completely invisible and unseen.  So, how does one place their “faith” in something they cannot see?  It is a matter of the heart and soul.  There is something so deep about reading about the life of Jesus in the Bible. Learning about how He came to earth to save us. This teaching is crucial and disturbing at the same time.  Why would someone leave paradise and come to earth to be scorned, tortured and die for us?  That’s a bit crazy, don’t you think?  Yet, that is exactly what Christ did.

Matthew 17:20 says: “So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, “Move from here to there, and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.”

Wow!  In the verses just before this verse, the disciples had just witnessed Jesus rebuking a demon out of a possessed man.  They watched a child be cured before their very eyes.  And they asked Jesus: “Why could we not cast him out?”  And so, he answered them.  Their faith was not yet there. But, IF they believed with the faith of the size of a mustard seed – a tiny, little seed – they would be able to do many things to bring about healing and love.

Faith.  The assurance of things NOT seen.

Is your faith tiny, small, almost undetectable?  Great!  Let it grow!  If it has been with you since childhood, fantastic!!  There is still room to GROW.  And, if you are thinking about learning more for the very first time, that would be wonderful!!! 

He’s waiting for you.  He’s knocking at the door of your heart.  There is no handle on His side of the door though….You must open the door!

 

 

Embark on a Mysterious Expedition

Embark on a mysterious expedition with me!  And adventure of sorts!  And, to some, it would be a long harsh journey in some ways, but oh, the outcome is GLORIOUS!

Imagine if you were one of the three Wise Men in the Christmas Story.  Why would you travel from the Orient to Bethlehem?  What are you looking for?

And, would you travel by camel for a hundred miles or even one thousand miles to see a mysterious babe in a manger?  Why would you choose to do such an adventure?  What would make you want to make this long, arduous journey towards Bethlehem?

And, would you really follow a star shining in the night sky?  What would cause you to begin such a journey?  Well, as it says in the scriptures, the Magi followed the star to Jerusalem to ask:  "Where is the One who has been born King of the Jews?  We saw His star in the East and have come to worship Him." (Matthew 2:1-2).  Wow!  That is one long journey to worship someone you don't even know is real!  But, somehow, they did make that journey and they did worship Him.  They believed the prophecy which had been foretold:  The Babe lying in a manger, wrapped in swaddling clothes.

And, the Three Kings brought gifts for Him, too!  Gold, Frankincense, and Mryyh. Have you ever wondered WHY???

Some of the answers are in this song.....Remember the old Christmas Carol:  We Three Kings???  The verses are fascinating!!!

1) "We three Kings of Orient are,

Bearing gifts we traverse afar,

Field and fountain, moor and mountain

Following yonder star.

Refrain:

O______,

Star of wonder, star of night,

Star with royal beauty bright,

Westward leading, still proceeding,

Guide us to Thy perfect light."

2) "Born a King on Bethlehem's plain,

Gold I bring to crown Him again,

King forever, ceasing never,

Over us all to reign."

Refrain

3) "Frankincense to offer have I,

Incense owns a Deity nigh,

Prayer and praising, all men raising,

Worship Him, God most high."

Refrain

4) Myrrh is mine, its bitter perfume,

Breathes of life of gathering gloom,

sorrowing, sighing, bleeding, dying,

Sealed in the stone cold tomb."

Refrain

5) "Glorious now behold Him arise,

King and God and Sac-ri-fice.

Al-le-lu-ia, Al-le-lu-ia, 

Earth to heaven replies."

Refrain

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A star leading them through the night......in wonder......shrouded in mysterious light....

with royal beauty.....guiding to the Perfect Light!  Christ IS that Light!!!  If ever there was a time to explore who Christ is, now is that time!!!

Go on a journey..........read in the New Testament the story for yourself!  It's in the Bible in the book of Matthew, Chapter 1 and 2, and Luke, Chapter 2: The Christmas story.  It's amazing - especially if it has been since you were a child when you last read it or heard it!  

And, John 1:14 says: "The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us.  We have seen His glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of Grace and Truth."

Come!  Follow the Star!!!  Find the Babe lying in the manager...........

He came for you.  He came for me.

Merry, Merry Christmas!!!

Catalytic Converters....

What does a Catalytic Converter do for a car?  Well, it is part of the exhaust system and keeps it from making a loud rumbling or roaring sound - a bit like the muscle cars in the 1960's when the owner wanted it to sound loud to get attention!

So, why are people stealing these so often in today's world?  The reason is that they have precious metals in them such as platinum, palladium and rhodium - copper, silver and gold.  They sell it to make money!  And, it is a hot item right now is most cities.  Our church parking lot has been the source of several thefts and it boggles my mind that people have the skill to cut these parts off so quickly in broad daylight when no one is looking!  Seriously???

So, why am I writing about this?  Because my car just had its catalytic converter stolen this week.......another part of the saga in car repairs this past month.  But no worries! I am not telling you this for sympathy, but  to show how God is working in my life and my son's to bring redemption!!!

What is a Cataclysm?  It is a violent and sudden upheaval.  Well, having this part stolen has been sudden and it has been and upheaval in my life.  Cataclysm, catalytic, cathartic.

It's all part of a figurative way of purging my emotions and testing my faith. And, it is bringing healing!  Yes, "All things work for good for those who love God and are called according to His prupose!!!"  (Romans 8:28)  All, not some, not part, not most, but ALL.

Despite the fact that this part being stolen is wrong (and annoying), God is working in my heart (and my son's) to show me that He is still in control!  He is still on the Throne!!  He is Sovereign!!!

Matt commented to me on Thanksgiving Day that he KNOWS there is a God because his mom is a praying mom and his life is a witness to God's Sovereignty!!!  Through all the trials and tribulations and  multiple life-threating experiences he has had in his life, he know he is still alive because him mom prays!  This is NOT about me.  It is about GOD.  It is about PRAYER. And, this is a HUGE revelation for my son!  HUGE!!!  

And, to me, this is about God's Glory!!!  When we pray, He is faithful!!!  And this entire experience

shows me that the God who watches over us indeed does watch over us. 

He never leaves us.  

He never forsakes us.

He IS faithful.

Always.  

What catalyst is at work in YOUR Life this week?

Sweet Memories...

Memories.....sweet remembrances of my family fill my mind and heart at this time of year.  We live 643-840 miles apart, but we love each other tremendously!  I realize that we are very lucky in our family to be so close and to want to talk to each other and spend time together.  I know some families do not share that closeness and I wish I could change that for several friends who do not have that closeness.  And, I am very grateful that our family does share that closeness!  I do not mean that as a boast, that is a true place a gratitude in my heart!!!  I know it is rare and I cannot thank God enough for it every day!

I have two older sisters and one younger brother, one brother-in-law, one sister-in-law, plus my son, three wonderful nieces, two incredible nephews, two amazing great nieces and my brother's two grandkids.  We have so much fun together when we are able to get together.........most of my family lives in Ohio,Texas and Virginia, and one recently moved to Belize.  Recalling their faces and their smiles fills my heart with joy.  We tease, we joke, we laugh, we taunt each other and we love each other.  Goofiness abounds when we are together!

My siblings and I have a series of "decade" photos:  Our thirty-something, forty-something, fifty-something and our sixty-something years we have captured in photos!!!  It is so much fun, but how did we get that old???  Ha! Ha!  My oldest sister turns 70 this year, so a new decade is upon us.  Wow............six decades of love and joy and laughter and yes, heartache, sorrow and tears have filled our paths as well.  But, what holds us together is LOVE!

A deep abiding love that stems from our parents and grandparents and great grandparents! Despite the troubles we have seen, we still gather and enjoy each other's company and cherish those moments.

Tell me, do you have sweet memories of your family or friends in your life?  I hope so!  Cherish them!  Enjoy them!  Spend time with them.  Tell them how much they mean to you!  Tell them as often as you can!!!  Don't take for granted that they "know" you love them...........tell them!  Show them! Hug them!!!

As I write out my Thanksgiving cards again this year, there is a saying that I found years ago that expresses the depth of my heart:

"Like an old country road,

Our Thanksgiving memories always lead us to the warm, familiar places we love...

And to the cherished faces waiting there."

Go to those warm, familiar places..........cherish those faces........let go of any unpleasant things of the past.....let by-gones be by-gones!  Forgive..........start over.......call them, text them, email them, have lunch or dinner with them, take them to the grocery, run errands with them, pick up leaves with them, throw snowballs at them.........whatever way you can find to show your heart.........and love, really love those in your life!  Tell them often!!!

GROW = Gracious Riches of Wonder

 Have you ever wondered how there are so many ways to GROW??  Cities grow, countries grow, plants grow, trees grow, grass grows, children grow, adults grow and somehow inside each of us, our souls grow.

I would love for you to consider going on this journey with me!  Recently, my church in Cincinnati had a 5 week journey of exploring how we each can GROW in our walk toward God.  Feel free to listen to the 5 sermons as they are very helpful and full of lots of challenges for you to GROW!  Just go to Crossroads.net/journey and watch all five weeks of lessons!  They are each about 20 minutes to listen to and have incredible tips on how to grow in your relationship with God!

Here is a listing of the five weeks:

1) Connect with God daily.

2) Receive teaching weekly

3) Share your story!

4) Get Baptized

5) Join Community

As the Grow Guide states (ask online for one to be sent to you, if you like!), for any relationship to grow, communication is the key - it is critical!  And, a relationship with God is NO different!  Check it out.....the more you talk to God, read His Word (The Bible) and ask lots of questions! Pick a time of day that works for you and start with 5 minutes of talking to God.  He is listening!

Each week that you listen to one of the messages, you can take a note pad and jot down what you learn.  Then, try to apply ONE thing that following week that you learned.

As you probably know, regular reading of God's Word is always good for our soul.  We GROW as we learn about what God wants to tell you in the pages of scripture.  Trying readying Matthew 5 which includes the Sermon on the Mount - check it out!

Believe it or not, you have an interesting story to tell!  Yes, YOU!  You have gone through experiences in this life that perhaps many have never experienced yet.  This sermon series teaches you how to create a way to share your story.  It is powerful because it's YOUR story - no one else has lived your life!  And, you have valuable information that can help others on their way.  Try it!

Baptism is a public display of our inward devotion for God and a decision to follow Jesus.  It's simple. And, it's amazing!  Even if you were baptized as a baby, you can declare your love for God by getting baptized as an adult.  Check out various churches in your area who will help you learn why and how to do just that.  Crossroads-Christian Church in Shawnee, KS is wonderful to explore this option!

Finally, we were meant to be experience life together.  If you don't have a community of friends or a church that you call home, I hope that you will explore new options for yourself soon.  The New Testament is a collection of books written to GROUPS of people:  The Colossians, the Ephesians, the Corinthians, etc.  Each city had its own set of people who lived in community together.  They broke bread and ate meals together, they worked together on the farms, in the fields, in their cities, in the barns, etc.  And, they did it all together! There's a wonderful scripture in Matthew 18:20 that says:

"Where two or three are gathered together in My name, there I am among them."

Think about that!  The presence of God right in the midst of your community!

There are SO many ways to explore how to grow in your Journey to God!

If you know me well, you know that I love acronyms!  So, here is one to consider:

GROW = Gracious Riches of Wonder.

God gives us so many riches every day and they are glorious and gracious:  Sunrises, sunsets, daily sunshine, rain to water the earth, trees  that turn beautiful colors in the Fall and give us a sense new growth in the Spring, flowers, vegetables and gardens that grow continuously, friends, family, co-workers, prayer partners, bicycle clubs, car pool groups, bunko groups, crochet groups, quilting clubs, etc. etc. etc.  The list goes on and on.........what can you add to your list of gracious riches in your life?

There is SO much wonder, too: the wonder of life, the wonder of marriage, the wonder of friendship, the awe and admiration of nature and so many things to marvel at how they came to be!  

Try taking an hour and be curious about something you have never explored before and see if you cannot find the wonder of something you have never known before.  It will be amazing!  

And, you will GROW because of it!!

Three Friends....

What do three totally different friends have in common when one is African-American, one is Hispanic and one is Caucasian???

Well, there are LOTS of things we have in common!!! 

First, our sons played football together from 5th grade until their senior year.  As "football moms," we drove our sons to practice, games and sports dinners every week.  We picked them up when they were exhausted and made sure they had food in their stomachs. We made sure they had the right equipment and uniforms and washed them faithfully for every season, every year.  We endured cold morning practices and games as well as sweltering hot summer practices.  We pushed them to make sure their academic studies were up to date and on time.  We loved them, cherished them and cheered them on at every game!  It was so much fun being a football mom!!!

Second, we enjoyed each other's company and still do!  We would go out to lunch or for happy hour after work where we shared our hopes and dreams for our boys - both back then and now.  We shared the boys hearts desires for their futures and our dreams for their lives. 

Third, we supported them and encouraged them to do what God had planned for them to do with their lives.  We prayed for their safety, their achievements (both on the field and off) and we loved watching them have fun!  And, in supporting our sons, we supported each other.

Fourth, we helped each other as moms of sons through some very difficult times.  We have laughed together and cried together.  We made a way when there seemed to be no way.

Back when we first met in the football stands or the school hallways, we never knew we would become such great friends.  We never knew we would support each other through some of the most grueling parts of our lives.  But we did.  We survived.  And, we thrived thanks to the support we were able to give each other through all those years. 

Now, years later, I look back and thank God Himself for making us friends!  It did not matter what country we were from or what color our skin was or what our finances looked like.  We were (and are) football moms.........moms of sons.....moms of some of the most handsome and incredible young men on the planet!  We are blessed beyond measure.  Not only because God granted us to be a mom of a son, but also, to be blessed to invest in our friendship as moms.  We have been through "Thick and thin."  We have gone months or years without seeing each other and still we have a connection that goes to the core of our being.  That friendship and love runs deep in our boys and deep in our veins.

We our moms of sons.

Thank you, Lord for blessing us beyond measure every day!!!

From Harsh to Marshmellow heart....

 At the end of a person's life, how is that person to be defined?  Is it by skill, intellect, personality, emotions (or lack thereof), career, status, finances, material items, religious preference, family of origin, # of kids or siblings, personal habits, physical strength, character traits, motivation or perception?

Then, of course, comes the question:  How does one WANT to be remembered?  Would the words loving, caring, giving, generous, hospitable, always helpful, or sweet come to mind?  OR, would people remember a harsh, stern, bully, tyrant, unreasonable, hard core or "always had to be right" type of person come to mind?

Whatever the perception is, that is what permeates the description in our heads and hearts.  It lingers....

Think about it - if this were your funeral, what would you want people to say about you?

Would you want them to walk a mile in someone else's shoes attitude?  Would you want people to realize who you really were instead of perception and their beliefs?  Would you be judgmental or gracious in your estimation?

If we've had a negative experience with someone important in our life, can we choose to become willing to extend grace?  Even after that person is gone?  Can we grow, learn  and have courage to face those feelings?  Can we forgive someone who has hurt us deeply?  Absolutely.  But it is a process.  We must choose to forgive.

The last 5 years has been extremely interesting in my relationship with Jerry Spencer.  We became friends....commrades.  We learned a lot about each other.  It's funny:  years ago, I told people the best part about my divorce (if there could be something like that!) was never speaking to Jerry Spencer again.  His words could be crushing.  Ironically, we have become very close and we talked often.  And I am grateful for this relationship in my life.

We shared our hurts, our frustrations, our feelings, and our successes and our failures. But most of all, we shared our faith!  We talked a lot about how the Holy Spirit is so essential in our lives and in our prayers.

We prayed for each other and our families.  We cried together and laughed together.  NEVER in a million years would I have dreamed we would become close!  The last time I spoke to Jerry was the day before Mother's Day.  I will miss his calls and the beautiful, poignant cards he send me each year.  He never missed a birthday, Christmas or Mother's day.  And the cards always arrived exactly on the day!  And, he always thought of me as family.

The biggest thing I learned about Jerry was how much he loved each one of his family!!!  How often he prayed for them and cried over them.  He admitted his mistakes and asked the Lord for forgiveness.  And, he received it:  I John 1 says:  "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."  Sounds too simple, doesn't it?  But that is they way the Lord designed it.  Confession.  Forgiveness.  Giving it all to Jesus!

Jerry tried with all his heart to seek forgiveness and put things straight as best he could.  He wanted to stere each one that he loved to a better place, to make better choices, to be wiser in their decisions.  His intentions were PURE GOLD.  And, it was all for love.

Romans 8:37-39 says:  "No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."  This is one of my life verses that anchors me. I read it for my beloved Grandfather " Gramps" and I read it now for Jerry.

The ultimate act of love is forgiveness...It's why Christ died on the Cross....for you, for me.

Have you ever watched the movie:  I Can Only Imagine or listened to that song?  I've watched it so many times that I've love count.  And I have wept over the relationships that were similar.  The movie is about relationships and how hurtful experiences can keep people apart - for years!  But, it is also about Redemption!!!  And, I believe today is about redemption.

Relationships CAN be healed...

Forgiveness CAN be extended...

Each one of us CAN offer and receive forgiveness  OR it can be withheld and relationships ruined.

What I learned the most about Jerry in the past 5 years was that his heart was in the right place.

Picture a HUGE Marshmellow Bouncey House!  It's squishy, it's pliable....one can land in a soft place....and it can be a place of JOY!

Jerry could be extremely difficult to deal with at times, but oh how he loved us and wanted the best for each of us!!!  That's why he pushed so hard....

If you haven't come to terms with your relationship with Jerry, then you haven't looked at the reason he existed. LOVE.  Pure and simple.

He couldn't  (or didn't ) say it in his earlier years, but once Christ go ahold of his heart, he pursued his love for the Lord 1st and then his love for his family.  Jerry did everything he could to make amends and be a pillar of strength for each of us.

He asked me once way back in 1986 when he first became a "Born again" Christian:

"Why can't my kids say "I love you" back to me?  My answer was:  "Perhaps because they did not hear it from you for the first 26 years of their lives....Maybe, if you keep telling them for the NEXT 26 years, they will believe you!"  With tears in his eyes, he then asked:  "Do you really think it will take that long?"  And, I answered:  "Only the Lord knows their hearts and yours."

Search your heart.....Then, picture and huge Marshmellow heart....that is/was Jerry's heart for each of you!!!

He loved you so........

All for Love

I have been asked to speak at a MOPS (Moms of Pre-schoolers) group on the topic of "All for Love."  So, it got me thinking about how we define love in today's world.  What exactly is love in your own heart and mind? 

Is it a feeling? An intense affectionate concern for another person? A passionate attraction to someone else? A beloved individual? A strong liking or enthusiasm towards others?  Is love cherishing a loved one or a family member?  Is love adoring someone in particular?

How would you define love? What would cause you to say "I love you" to someone? What would cause you to "love" something or someone? Is it the type of love you see on a Hallmark movie?  Or even in a romantic novel?  Is it family love or friendship?  Is it brotherly/sisterly love?

And, on another level, how would you describe a parent's love?  Is it sacrificial?  It is unconditional or conditional?  Or, is it a duty that has to be done because children are not able to take care of themselves? I think that subject would take days or years to define!  And, there is definitely more to being a parent that meets the eye as basic duties of a parent!

There are questions and upon questions on love...what question do you have about love?

I Corinthians 13:1-3 says:  "If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries  and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing."

Would you give all you possess to the poor?  Would you burn at the stake for someone you loved? Think about it.  What degree would you go to for love?

Love is defined very differently in the Bible than the Webster dictionary.  

Agape love is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love.  It is the highest of the four types of love in the Bible. 

Phileo love is a friendship type of love.  

Storge love is affection. 

And, finally Eros love is romantic love.

Which type of love presents itself in your life on a regular basis? What would you give up for love?  Or who would you do anything for,  for love?  

And, how about ALL for love?  Would you give it "all?"  Is there a specific cause you would give everything up to help? Would you sponsor a child with Compassion International or a similar organization to love a child that has nothing or very little?  Would you do that for 18 years or longer? What about your own kids if you have them.  What would you do to love them completely?

And, finally, would you give your life for another person if it came down to it?  Or, would you give up your life as Christ did on the cross for an entire humanity of people whose sins, mistakes or choices need atoning for?  

Love is a very deep subject to ponder....and a topic that is vital to our families and lives....we can choose to love deeply and give "all" for love or not.  

How do you choose to love?  Deeply or on the surface?  Carelessly or carefully? Conditionally or unconditionally?  All or nothing?

Continuing from the verse above, verses 4-13 say it all:

"Love is patient and kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not haughty or selfish or rude.  It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered.  It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.  When I became a man, I put childish things behind me.  Now I see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And, now these three things remain:  Faith, Hope and Love.  But the greatest of these is LOVE."

So again, what do you say love is?  How do you choose to love those people in your life?  Choose carefully.  It has lasting affects on those you love or choose not to love.  

Your Heart Song...

Have you ever heard of a Honeyeating Bird from Australia?  I had not until this morning when reading Our Daily Bread devotion turned me to researching this singing bird. There are only about 300 of these birds left and may become extinct. However, Australian conservationists are looking into how to prevent that.  The conservationists are bringing music to the habitat with recorded songs so that they birds can hear their native song and relearn how to sing it!  This bird has a unique song - it's heart song which allows them to sing for a mate!  If they lose their song, the species will die.  Can you imagine if they lost that song?      

Zephaniah 3:17 says that God sings over us!  

"The Lord God is in our midst, The Mighty One will save.  

He will rejoice over you with gladness, 

He will quiet you in His love, 

He will rejoice over you with singing."

Amazing!  Just as God created a unique and special bird in Australia, he created each of us with our own unique heart song. Each of us are given gifts to share with others.  Trials, tribulations and daily stresses take away our heart song sometimes.  We become deafened to what makes us sing.  We lose our savor, our passion, our way.  But what if we like this Honeyeating Bird relearn our song?  What if when we feel decimated by our suffering, we sing?  What if our heart song could be restored?

I believe God does that every time we turn to Him.  He sings over us.  Yes!  You. Me.  Bringing Him the things that hurt the most.  The things that tear us down.  The things that make us heart sick.  He can make a way where there is NO way!  His voice of love and forgiveness can restore our song.  We can listen to His melody each day by reading His Word.  By listening for His voice.  By prayer and meditation. By listening for the song He sings over us....yes, even you!  Even me.

He never lets us go.  He never leaves us.

Now that is a song worth singing!!!